The article in question was Why every girl should give blowjobs, from a girls perspective.
Ugh. I'm going to do a takedown of this article, mainly because I have a kid on Facebook who may, sooner or later, come across this article and I don't ever want her to feel obligated to do things she's not comfortable with.
No. Not every girl should give blow jobs.
Girls who like giving head should give head, hopefully to someone who likes receiving head. Girls who do not like giving blow jobs, should not give blow jobs. Just like guys who do not like giving head should not give head.
No one should participate in sex acts they are uncomfortable with. If you really enjoy them, then go for it. If you're just kind of meh about it, but generally okay with it and get enjoyment from making your partner happy, then that's cool too.
There's a number of problems with this article. It's heteronormative, to begin with. I'm going to ahead and mention that a lot of lesbians probably don't like being told they should give blow jobs. But I guess lesbians don't exist in this universe.
Not a single point on the list even remotely touches on the woman's enjoyment. Most of the points like "He's more likely to get down on one knee if you get down on two" revolve around using oral sex as a manipulation tactic, or getting a guy's approval. People, this mentality is gross. GROSS. Do it because you like it, and if you don't like it, don't do it.
The only reference to enjoyment is where the author mentions that it's fun. Fair point. It sure can be loads *snicker* of fun. But she then goes on to kill that by claiming that if you don't think it's fun, you're doing it wrong.
And that's where my issue comes into play: the author employs a prescriptive voice throughout the article. She doesn't say, "I think this is awesome." She says, "I think this is awesome, and so should you."
That's a big nope.
It could have been possible to write this while making it clear that it's completely subjective, and without shaming people who don't like to participate in oral sex. The author of the article could have titled the piece "15 Reasons I Think Blow Jobs Are The Freaking Awesomest." Because then it stops being prescriptive and becomes one person's personal opinion. Instead of ending the article with "Get to work, people" she could have said something like "Now if you'll excuse me, I've gotta head downtown for a while... if you know what I mean *wink*"
Hey, that's pretty clever. I'm starting to think I should have written it.